Now I Am an Orpan
After my brother passed away, my mom and dad both went down hill pretty fast. My dad bought the farm he was living on with my brother. This created a big issue after my brother passed away due to other family members wanting their share of their inheritance from my brother's estate.
My sister talked my brother into making her the executor of his will while he was sick. That was a big mistake on his part. He did not want anything to happen to the farm. He had specific wishes which were no secret about what should happen with the farm, mom and dad, his wife, and his children. Needless to say, none of it happened the way he wanted it.
My parents were forced to sell the farm. I believe this was the beginning of the end for my dad. He had nothing left. The farm, the cows, the hay, the tractor, the skidloader... all of it was gone now. I know that he felt that he had no reason to keep on living. He already had heart problems, and now he had just given up. He passed away shortly after my sister (who had medical power of attorney of course) made the decision to let a small town hospital drain water from around his heart. My dad passed away in March 2015.
My sister made me tell my mom that her husband and love of her life for 69 years had passed away. I will never forget that day. My mom was a tiny woman around 5 foot tall with snow white hair. This frail little woman sat on the couch and balled up her fists and yelled, "Nooooooo! He told me he would be here for our 70th anniversary in September!"
After that, she just gave up and quit eating. It was far too much for her to deal with losing her son and then her husband. My sister's solution to the problem was to call in Hospice. My mom looked at me and begged me to tell my sister not to let them kill her. It was so sad, but I couldn't do a thing since my sister was medical power of attorney.
My mom passed away in July of 2015. Both of my parents were gone, and I knew that I could never, ever go home again. Now I was an orpan. This is where you have to live on somehow and make them proud anyway, and hope that somehow they can still see you.
Lesson Learned: It doesn't matter how old you are when you lose both of your parents. You feel like an orpan, and know that there will never, ever be anyone in your life that can replace them, or love you like they did.
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