The Nightmare Continues: Selling Everything, Finding a Home and Moving
After my husband passed away, I was faced with some very difficult decisions. I had a business on the property where I ran a shop as an herbalist and detox specialist, and I also had a business that I worked from home. The business that I worked from home had failed me several times due to the company that I was working with and poor decisions on their part. Bottom line was, I had very little income to keep myself going at this point. My husband left me with nothing. In fact, he put his firstborn son on his savings account jointly with him. When he passed away, his son got the money that was in the account. I got nothing. I had no idea where I was even going to get the money to buy food, gasoline or how I would pay the utility bills!
Thankfully, my son in law reminded me that I still had the tractor in the barn. I asked him if he would contact the local tractor and implement store as see what they would give me for the tractor. There had been talk previously between my husband and his son about selling the tractor. That money would have gone in my husband's savings account too. So I was very thankful that I still had that tractor!
I sold the tractor for $10,000 shortly after that. It gave me enough money to live on temporarily until I could figure out what I was going to do. During this time, my two children, my entire family on my husband's side, or anyone from my family or friends even contacted me to see if I was okay. Mostly it was my cousin who is mentally retarted, and a new friend that I had met through an Amish family that I was friends with. Even the chuch people didn't seem to care how I was!
At this point I decided to auction off my home, property and business, along with a lot of other items that could be sold at the auction. I also started to look at homes that were for sale. I could go anywhere I wanted to go, because there seemed to be nothing or no one that was holding me here. I even considered moving to St. Simon's Island, Georgia where my cousin lived. I checked into houses there, and found out that it is a very desirable area to live, but housing was priced sky high due to it being on the ocean front.
I started looking at houses in all of the neighboring towns. I knew that I needed to move somewhere into a town or city because I could die in the country and no one would even miss me or know I was gone! It's hard telling how long it would have been before anyone realized and found my body. This is a very difficult way to feel after doing so much for family and friends over many years!
After touring many homes that were for sale, I finally decided on one. It was a house that had a few trees, a basement, a garage, and an above ground pool. It also had a gas fireplace and a gas cooking stove. I had a home inspection done, and some problems came up that needed to be fixed. Some of the wiring was still the old cloth coated wire. The gas furnace wasn't vented properly. Some of the windows were cracked. And the garage door safety eyes were not functioning. All of these things needed to be fixed, and I knew I wouldn't have the money to fix them anytime in the near future. So the papers were drawn up, with stipulations that all of these things were to be fixed by a licensed contractor.
After they said everything was fixed, I went back to look at things with the home inspector. The owners of the house were there. They were not supposed to be there. That was a red flag right there. When I asked to see the paperwork from the licensed contractor showing where everything had been fixed, the home owners could not produce it. The broken windows that had been fixed were done by the home owner, and weren't even caulked! They could fall out if anyone touched them! It turns out that everything that needed to be fixed was done by the home owner, and it was done very poorly. So I refused to buy the house.
The next thing I knew, I got papers in the mail saying that the home owners were sueing me for breaking the contract! I asked the realtor for help to no avail. I asked the home inspector for help to no avail. So I had no other choice but to go get a lawyer of my own! This was so crazy! I only had that little bit of money from the tractor to live on! The lawyer I got was a woman. I thought maybe she would understand my predicament.
In the mean time, in July of 2018 I had a huge auction. I had to move on and get to a point where I could support myself. The auction didn't bring anywhere close to the amount of money that I thought I would get. I at least knew how much money I had to get another home with. I now had 30 days to move, and I didn't even have a house bought yet!
Due to the issue with the other house that I was going to buy, and the lawyer being involved, the real estate agent told me that I wasn't allowed to buy another house. I certainly wasn't going to put my things in storage, then move everything again after I found a house. I talked to the new owner, and asked if I could have some extra time. He wasn't planning to move into the house anyway. He owned a trucking company, and he was going to use it to rent out to one of his drivers. He agreed that I could have 30 days extra.
I started looking at other homes. The realtor I had worked with previously refused to show me anything else because I didn't buy the other house, so I had too go through a different real estate agent. I was looking for a house that had a separate office entrance. That way I could run an herb and detox shop from my home still. I found several that I loved, but all of them were out of my price range. I finally settled on a two story house that didn't have a separate office entrance, but it did have a large downstairs office. I really wanted a house that was all on one story, but this was a nice older home that I thought I could work with. So, I made an offer and it was accepted. I again had a home inspection done. This home inspection was much better than the previous one. I was finally moving ahead!
Lesson Learned: The people who are supposed to have your back don't always care about you. Sometimes a family of friends is better than blood relatives.
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